Thursday, December 1, 2016
Ways to Battle Ennui, and a Vocab Lesson. I Miss Vocab.
ENNUI. My favorite vocabulary word ever. Because it perfectly encapsulates something I struggle with from time to time, and I'm sure others out there do to otherwise IT WOULDN'T BE A WORD! #logic.
Noun-a feeling of listlessness and dissatisfaction arising from a lack of occupation or excitement.
Synonyms-boredom, tedium, lethargy, listlessness, languor, weariness, enervation, malaise, melancholy, world weariness, Weltschmerz.
So many of these synonyms hit home, nothing thrills me more than putting words to feelings!!!!
"World weariness". World Weary-feeling or showing fatigue from boredom with the life of the world and especially material pleasures. I think the world weary hits me hard when I spend too much time on social media. Like, everyone is doing and saying the same things so what does any of it even mean? Connecting with people online can be both wonderful AND detrimental. As "they" say, it's all about the balance!
It's all part of human nature, to feel the ennui. Because we're not perfect. That being said I'm very very happy with my life and THANKFUL for where I am today. (SO THANKFUL!) But the ennui can get us at any time or place. I think for me it sets in around the holidays as there is so much pressure to have and experience this magical holiday time, sometimes getting overloaded on fun and excitement that nothing can really live up that build up. Then settles in the ennui. "The holidays are over! There's nothing to look forward to besides a long, cold, DARK winter" or "Why don't I feel as Christmassy as I think I should? I just feel regular! Shouldn't I be feeling tinsel-y inside?!?" And so on, haha. You get the idea.
So today, in anticipation of the good ol' ennui settling in at some point this winter (it's not always the winter for me though, it comes and goes throughout the year) I made a list of things to do to battle it. To be proactive! Because sometimes my baby sleeps and I need to do things during that time to be a person! I wouldn't say ennui is full on depression. No, not at all. I guess it could spiral into that for sure, but mostly it's more like I'm a character in an indie movie. One that does not do well in any of the festivals, LOL. It's like, with some work you can pull out of it. Or just fake it till you make it and it goes away. I think the ennui strikes those of us who spend too much time in our own heads. You extroverts will have to correct me if I'm wrong on that one, though!
Ok, so here's the list I worked on today with concrete ideas to battle any ennui feelings coming my way. I guess they could also double as just straight up goals too.
1. Having daily quiet time, prayer, and Bible Study (pretty self explanatory)
2. Work out!
3. Prayer time spent specifically on Sawyer, and her future.
4. Reach out to friends, make plans to get together.
5. Create a "to read" list. Work through it. Write about each book.
6. Work on or plan out a home improvement project.
7. Meal Plan and/or try cooking a new recipe.
8. WRITE WRITE WRITE WRITE WRITE. Ok, this one should be like number four.
9. Journal about Sawyer's life, scrapbook ect.
10. Join a mom's group and stay connected even when you don't feel like it. You know, due to "world-weariness".
11. Clean something.
12. Donate something.
13. Create something.
14. Make a plan/schedule for the day or week.
15. Encourage someone dealing with a tough issue, (vaginismus, infertility, ect).
16. Join the writers group thing at the library.
17. Make plans to connect with family outside of normal holidays.
18. Do something with or for my niece and nephews.
19. Listen to a Young House Love podcast! Find other podcasts!
20. Stare at my baby and continually count my blessings outlaid and write them down
I hope this is helpful to anyone of you who may also have a little bit of the ennui sometimes. It's ok! We're built to thirst after more than this world. I want to learn to the lean on the Lord during these times and not just "muddle through". I'm tired of "surviving". I'm really enjoying this time in my life of "thriving" and I don't want to lose it!I didn't realize how sweet the taste of thrive really was and now I never want to lose it. I'm addicted! Hehe. I realize, reading my list it all sounds kind of magazine-y pat ways to "beat the blues". Oh well. I think they will help me. At least I have a list of things to do and work.
That's all for today. Gonna go hang out with the baby, because she's the best! Take that ennui!